Posted on 15 November 2010.
by Owen Strand
‘Tis the season fellas! We all love these holiday times but secretly even the best of us guys dread trying to live up to Santa Man. I have some pointers, just a few suggestions, and some are the mine fields that you need to be aware of. Many are tried and true; some just make sense and one or two that I will be trying out this season myself. Good Luck to us all, maybe we can all be the big Holly Hero this year.
These are some things I know:
Look around, those catalogs sitting on the sofa table with little dog-eared pages? Those are hints, possibilities and maybe suggestions, check them out.
Tight, low cut, red sweaters are not the answer EVERY year.
Your gal may or may not be the norm, you know her best, tap into all that knowledge. Some gals would actually love to get a vacuum for a gift and others will pluck your eyes out while you sleep for giving such a gift. You better know your gal’s preferences.
And most important, the ‘for sure’ in the entire gift giving scenario, she wants to know that she was special enough for you to take the time on her. Knowing that it doesn’t come completely natural for most of us guys, we need to plan it out then, Stick to the plan. Here is mine…
Times have changed so much in the gift giving world. The days of a surprise gift that you never thought of having is FAR behind us now. No option for you to pick out something she never expected….dude, if she never thought of having it then she probably won’t ever want it…ever! So don’t get carried away with yourself. Check your plan.
Don’t get too comfortable with the knowledge of knowing what she wants either. You can’t just run out and buy the exact three gifts you know she has mentioned. Take my word for this one, and I quote “If I was going to get the first three items on my list, I could have done that for myself”. Stick to your plan.
The Plan
Remember first and foremost my friends, that this is not about you. It has nothing to do with how this will affect you (little nighties or a ticket to the upcoming concert of your favorite band included). This is about HER.
Make your decisions. How much can I spend and how would I like to see that play-out at our gift giving time. What I am saying, that we so often miss, if I am spending $200.00 and would like her to get to open 5 gifts, then as I look over “the list” and a 50 minute Tropical Pedicure from Coldwater Creek at $70.00 (hello, a great suggestion guys) is going to then set the limits of the other four items.
Start now. That is not meant to imply that you can start thinking about what you will buy. Give yourself a timeline and use it.
Make your list and don’t let impulse guide you away. Once you are out shopping, don’t deviate. Impulse will get you into trouble on many fronts, financial included. She will not enjoy a gift that she later has to help pay for.
If you have never tried a stocking, put it on your plan this year. She will love waking up to a little stocking with small sweet treats inside. Simple items like her favorite breath mints, a pair of cuddly socks and her favorite magazine would be perfect. None of those are expensive and yet, she will be thrilled that you took the extra time and effort.
Now last thing guys, wrap the dang thing. This is another of those monumental little “learn from my mistakes” suggestions I will pass to you. At the gift giving festivities do not ask if she wants it wrapped! As the words echo in my head, ‘exactly what is she supposed to answer to that, obviously it is not wrapped already?’
My gift giving experiences and wounds have taught me that all she is wanting, is to see the results of you taking some time to show she is worth you taking some time and effort…for her.
One last note buddies, if you are reading this because it was left open on your desk or magazine pile then feel very secure that SHE agrees, at least in part, with what I have suggested. This is your hint, but more importantly it is her hope for a Ho Ho Ho from her Santa Man.